Hill Harper, An actor that you probably would remember from movies such as He got games, Beloved, In Too Deep and tv show csi. He has written a book after seeing some alarming statistic that only 38% of Black children live in two-parent homes and that 64% of African-American women have never been married while 57% of white women have been married. He also compared how back in 1966, 84% of all African-American children were raised by two parents. He also mention that 80% of Asian-American and 70% of White kids were raised by both parents in 2006. Scary you would say? yes quite, but why? What are we doing wrong? He doesn't want us to blame that on the American attitude nor the typical saying "there is no good black men" or vice versa.

In this book he wants them to deal with our issues, mainly love. He isn't giving us the perfect recipe to love but more explaining what he has noticed like, women tend to talk about relationship between themselves which usually brings the misinformation (like oh your man SHOULD be bringing you to the movies etc etc)."Every man isn't looking for a chef in the ckithen, a lady in the street and a freak in the sheets.What a man expects from a woman is to feel wanted,included,supported and loved." He obviously had to included good sex but that wasn't ALL they are needed from us.

He also sent a message to the men, to "man up" to stop turning a blind eye on what the other guys do as well.He mention something that sparked my interest is the racist part in relationship and an author of THeRoot.com "What single Women Can Learn From Michelle". Where she basicallys aid that not many women would have even paid attention to Obama when he was in his 20's and he agreed that most women (like i've spoke to many people even co-workers) want someone equal or better.

But i believe us women should lower and block what some of our mothers have mention. You meet a broke brother? help him to make it up there. If he isn't stylish enough, you can help him becoming it. If he isn't sweet enough you can show him how to be sweet. If he doesn't have enough manners, you can raise him and so on. Just like a dish, you have to prepare it til it's like you would want. Same thing for men. Here's what he had to say about what most women would say after what I've said and what he said before :"You're not settling if you focus on a man's core traits. If you want kindness,character,patience,someone who will chase the kids around the park, then you're not stepping down. It's only settling if you honestly know you can' tbe happy with a man who isn't the breadwinner or who can't take you on expensive vacations." Which i love to call gold diggers.

About the "There is no good black women/men out there". He said that there is only Women are only chasing after 5% of the men, that too many are defining good on their bank account, the high price car, where he lives and how attractive he is. "If more women looked at a man's character and judged his worht based on his level of kidness or patience, They'd find a lot of great men."

Bottom line is in every relationship, potential one, friendship matter of fact EVERYTHING in life, to discuss with each other. The key is always communication. Girls lets your gards down, stop behaving the way you would want the men wants.


Here's his Top 5 Tips to Good Sex

1. Have Fun
2. Communicate
3. Wrap it up
4. Experiment
5. Love Yourself